Hey! I started a blog and have no clue what I’m doing!

Hey! I started a blog and have no clue what I’m doing!

Welcome to my brand-new, freshly-birthed blog. My name is Andrew, and it’s really awesome that you would take the time to read what I have to say!

Why would I start a blog, you may ask? Well, I am 21 months into my 40s, and you know what? I don’t have a clue what I’m doing! I guess the same could be said for my 30s. And for my 20s. I’m beginning to think that I’m never gonna figure out this thing called “adulting.” But I’m also starting to realize that just may be the point. So I’ve decided to take some time each week to write about life in my forties and the journey I am on.

All my life I’ve been taught/encouraged/forced(?) to be responsible and make the smart choices. The safe choices. And I’m starting to think that’s my problem. When you don’t take risks, when you always play it safe, when you always do the responsible thing, you’ll most likely go through life disappointed, unfulfilled, creatively stifled, and having a whole lot of what-ifs.

That’s me. This is where I’m at in my life.

So what can I do about it? Well, the first thing I did was quit my job. Yikes! Are you serious?? Yep. No backup plan. No new job lined up. My job was not making me happy and I was no longer passionate about what I was doing.

I know I’m going to get comments about how it’s a JOB. You’re not supposed to be happy. You work for a paycheck to pay the bills. Really? That’s all life is about? That’s what God created us for? Spending the majority of our days doing things we don’t enjoy with people we may or may not like being around to get a paycheck in order to pay bills and buy more stuff that we don’t need that won’t make us happy anyway. THIS, my friends, is the American dream. No wonder so many people are unhappy, depressed, spiritually empty, and completely stressed out.

So I’m going to take the next few months to work on me. Figure out what makes me happy, explore my creativity. I have some online and freelance stuff that I’m working on and will also be helping my wife, Melissa, market and launch her first novel (which you can find more about at www.melissafrey.com). I’m either a genius or a complete fool. I’ll keep you posted on the final verdict! Lol

So how about you? Where are you at in your life journey? Are you living a happy and fulfilled life? Or are you right there with me, thinking that there has to be more, but not even sure what to do or where to start. Maybe you and I can journey together and help each other out as I figure out forty.

12 thoughts on “Hey! I started a blog and have no clue what I’m doing!

  1. I wish you the best of luck on your journey. What most people do not realize about a journey is that it must be unscripted by the main character. We can try and dictate our paths, but that will always lead to man-sized goals and experiences. When we step out in faith and say, “God, this is all in your hands” then we live a life that nobody else gets to. We get to have our own unique experiences that come to bridge the communal. I look forward to your next steps and can’t wait to see where you end up.

    1. Thanks, Cody! It’s terrifying and exhilarating all at once, which probably means I’m on the right track (I hope!?). I’ve really appreciated our conversations regarding this new adventure. Thanks for the support and encouragement!

  2. I’m right there with you man. I was forced to start over at 40 and it has been extremely difficult. I struggle with wether I’m in the right business. As you know, I have a very ill wife and all those daughters that depend on me so I can’t quit. But am I happy? No not really. I’d love to explore other options, but like you I’ve always done the “safe” thing. I always think…someday…but will it ever come? Who knows? I know God has a plan for me but am I living it? Not sure. Anyway, you’re not alone. Just think of how endless the possibilities are and be BOLD enough to fight for them!

    1. I totally understand, Lenny. And it’s hard because you’re in a different place in life with a wife and kids. Melissa and I have been praying about this stuff since even before DFMC. No clue how this will all end up but trusting the Lord’s leading each step of the way. I’ll definitely be praying for you and your family, brother!

  3. This must be the year to step out in faith, my friend. 🙂 I’ve made a drastic change too in the last year. May this step of faith bring you as much joy as mine has brought me. It’s not without challenges…but life would be boring if everything was easy right?

  4. Some people call this mid life crisis 😉. I’m 8 years into my forties and have dedicated my entire adult life raising kids. I gave up a high pay dental career to be a broke stay at home Mom. Don’t get me wrong my husband has done well supporting a family of 6 on one income but it takes careful budgeting. Even though I have no regrets I often ponder on what our next chapter is. I find these thoughts both liberating and terrifying. That being said, good luck as you dive into your next chapter.

    1. Haha thanks, Karla! And I agree that some of what I’m feeling could be interpreted as a “mid-life crisis.” 🙂 I have the utmost respect for stay-at-home moms – it’s one of the greatest callings of all! But I am realizing more and more that many people my age have “settled” in life and have not fully embraced their calling. That’s mainly my focus with this blog. Melissa and I are in a unique situation without children, so it’s a bit easier for us to make some new choices and take risks. Thanks for the comment!

  5. I saw you resigned and wondered what was up. My guess is you have more figured out than you think you do…ya know, since you’re a fellow introvert! 😉 I wish you well and may God birth great things in the days ahead!

  6. Three years ago I was where you are with blogging. It’s an adventure, for sure. Keep at it, and you’ll get it figure out. Congrats on stepping out of your comfort zone.

    1. Thanks so much, Nancy! My wife is a writer and blogger and we also have a health & wellness website. Exciting stuff planned 😃

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